Giving the silent treatment is considered relationship abandonment

July 2, 2009 |11:00 | Relationship  By : Team X

Giving the silent treatment is considered relationship abandonmentYou decide that you need some personal time, maybe a little vacation to clear your mind and relax a bit. Without calling your boss or telling your co-workers, you depart for your escape and spend the week completely cut off from the world.

How do you think your boss would react? Not so well. Do you think this is grounds for termination? Of course. Would you ever do this? No way. We all know that in order to take a break from work, you discuss it with your boss beforehand. You don’t just run away. We value our jobs, we don’t want to lose our jobs, and have respect for our boss and coworkers. Running away and abandoning our position is never an option.

Why would this be any different with your relationship?

Many times, people pull away from their significant other because they just need a break or a little personal space to decompress from the stress of every day life. Having this need is perfectly natural. It is even encouraged within long-term relationships to spend time apart on occasion.

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Can a bad breakup turn me gay?

July 1, 2009 |11:11 | Break-ups  By : Team X

Dear Bossy: Up until 6 months ago I was a normal 27 year old guy, loving life, happy in his relationship with a beautiful woman who seemingly loved me just as much as I loved her. Unfortunately 6 months ago my world came crashing down around me when she announced that she was ending our 2 year relationship because she had met someone else she had been seeing for 2 months without me knowing.

There was no sign of this coming. She cheated on me and my world came crashing down like I had never known before.I went through the standard depressing time of not having her in my life, then the anger and being cheated on… I suppose all the stages you expect come with this type of break up.

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When alcohol is the problem in your relationship

June 30, 2009 |10:00 | Relationship  By : Team X

When alcohol is the problem in your relationshipWhat is it about this type of drink that causes people to become attached to it? What is it about alcohol that is so much more difficult to handle than say tea or milk? Could it possibly be that there is the huge possibility of an addiction coming to the surface; an addiction that even those who are faced with the problem can't identify? So if one knows that one could possibly be at risk for dealing with such an addiction, why put one's self into the position of having to deal with an uphill battle against the odds and alcohol? This question is even more apparent when it involves two people in a relationship. When the dangerous consumption of alcohol (and by this I mean the too frequent consumption to where it seems you have to have it just to make it through the day) in the middle of a relationship, things can become pretty rocky. I have personally known and watched many couples battle over the issue of one in the relationship being an alcoholic. So what do you do? If you're the one in the relationship loving the alcoholic but not the alcohol, then its hard to say. After all, we always hear that the proper way to love someone is by accepting them as they are no matter what, but what happens when this ideal, unconditional type of love becomes too difficult to do?

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Addicted to sex, are you?

June 29, 2009 |12:40 | Relationship  By : Team X

The topic sex addiction is extremely controversial and experts are not able to agree whether sexual addiction is a true addiction, with two researchers publishing in 1998 an article entitled ''Sexual addiction: many conceptions, minimal data'', reports a news agency.

Dr Erick Janssen, the Director of Education & Research Training at The Kinsey Institute, has explained that there is no accepted definition for the term.

"We do not have a generally accepted definition of 'sex addiction.' It was originally approached as involving some kind of ''inability to adequately control sexual behaviour,'' but this is, as you can tell, not a very objective definition," the news agency quoted CBS News as saying.

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Sex And Relationship

June 27, 2009 |11:29 | Relationship  By : Team X

Sex And Relationship

Like margaritas, sex can be even better when experienced al fresco. "Having sex outside awakens the senses," says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., a sex therapist and the founder of MyPleasure.com. "Feeling the breeze on your skin, smelling the freshly cut grass—stimuli are very erotic." Plus, the fear of getting caught can add a thrill.

To inspire you, we've come up with prime outdoor spots for getting busy, plus advice on the best positions in each.

Relationship tips - meeting the parents

June 26, 2009 |09:52 | Relationship  By : Team X

Relationship tips - meeting the parentsIn any relationship meeting the parent is a big step and very nerve racking for the one who is meeting their partner’s parents. It should be in some ways because these people have raised your partner from birth to adulthood. They know him/her better in some ways that you have little insight into yet. In other ways this should be a moment to celebrate and embrace. Meeting the parents is an important step to making this relationship permanent. Your partner wouldn’t bring home just anyone; instead he/she would bring home someone special – you. Remembering that piece of information should help you relax enough to plan the perfect meeting. Here are some great tips to help you along the way.Do research:

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The breakup blues

June 25, 2009 |09:31 | Break-ups  By : Team X

Many people don't associate breakups with grief or bereavement, but it's actually the same thing. You are experiencing the loss of a person that was a very important part of your life, and it’s only natural to mourn.
Experts have identified seven different stages of grief. It is important to note however, that the progression from one stage to another is as unique as the individuals themselves.  For instance, after a breakup you may find yourself in the Depression stage for six months, whereas others may move forwards (or backwards) in a matter of weeks.

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Broken connection

June 24, 2009 |13:46 | Break-ups  By : Team X

Broken connectionThe dating pool  we choose from contains all sorts of people, carrying all sorts of baggage. Yet even aware of the complications it brings us, we knowingly dive in time and again.
 
It is our deepest desire to find another worthy of our hearts and love who will also make us feel safe and connected, and be our anchor. Each time we find that certain connection with another, a mutual pact is made from the heart to preserve the preciousness found together and to prevent its death by not giving into the vanity of empty egos and the pains of the world.
 
Speaking only for myself, that pact has always been the one for which I would go to the ends of the earth to keep intact - as being connected and understood in my love relationship is that important to me.
 
But sometimes, after you think you’ve finally found the perfect fit, your other half disconnects, seemingly without warning. And when that happens there is no greater feeling of isolation in your mind. 

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Sex drought wilts relationships

June 23, 2009 |10:20 | Relationship  By : Team X

Sex!Or the lack of it.He wants it but she doesn't, yet neither says a word.It goes on in bedrooms around Australia night after night, week after week, month after month, even year after year.

She lies in bed, silent, fearing his creeping hand. He lies next to her, terrified of making a move in case he's rejected again.

Australian sex therapist and author Bettina Arndt says she's been listening to people talk about a sex drought for years but there was little research into the problem.

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The sixth task: establishing a good sexual relationship

June 22, 2009 |13:26 | Relationship  By : Team X

The-sixth-task-establThe sixth task of establishing a good marriage doesn't sound like a task at all: managing a good sex life. And, the newlyweds may think, we've got that down just fine, thank you very much. But as a marriage progresses, children come along, life intervenes, and things get more complicated. Judith S. Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee, authors of The Good Marriage, define the sixth task as "to establish a rich and pleasurable sexual relationship and protect it from the incursions of the workplace and family obligations."
This is a task the authors endorse most enthusiastically, stating, "there is no better antidote to the pressures of living than a loving sex life." Yet it's not as simple as it might seem.  Technique is important, and couples need to learn how to communicate their likes and dislikes. Even more important is the spirit with which they approach each other. Never is a loving, caring attitude more important than in the bedroom.
"Sexual intercourse combined with love demands trust," the authors said. "Both partners must feel safe, and this takes time." Time to establish that feeling of safety, time to learn each other's needs, and time to learn to communicate on this sensitive subject. The authors encourage couples to safeguard their sex life, making it a priority even when children and workplace demands make it challenging. Taking a weekend trip can do wonders, but so can a good lock on the bedroom door to prevent the little people from popping in at the wrong moment!

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