A relationship is over long before you hear it said from you or your partner. There is something about a relationship that does not just end, it ends gradually and both parties are aware of something that is missing.
The missing element is the love that was there from the beginning but now is no where to be found. Sometimes one of the partners will take a look around to see where the love went and the other will just go on with life as if nothing happened. Maybe in that scenario the one who was not aware that the love was missing was never in love at all.
Familiarity and habits are found in each and every relationship and can easily be misidentified for a love relationship when really you just know that he likes his eggs sunny side up instead of scrambled. There are other little tidbits that these two words familiarity and habits breed and that is a togetherness that is not held together by anything but those two elements.
When the love goes is a sure sign that the relationship is over. You can try to strive off of those two elements familiarity and habits but what will make you smile. When was the last time that the two of you shared a smile or a laugh that was genuine and from the heart. Isn't happiness what a relationship is all about.
When you do not have happiness in a relationship, the two of you being in a relationship may not be worth saving. Only the two of you will know if you should rush to a marriage counselor or to a divorce lawyer. If there is children involved, then the familiarity and habits has quadrupled because of the love that is sure to emit from the children if not from the two of you.
Some couples think that is enough and will put up with the daily arguments and the disagreements because they think they have a family because of the children. A family does not just consist of a mother, father, and children; there also must be love present to bind the whole thing together. This is the furthest from the truth because daily arguments are only teaching the children that this is what married couples do and that is to raise havoc to see who can win a fight that can not be won.
You know when a relationship is over when the familiarity, habit, and the family is not enough to sustain anything for the long term except knowing what time each of you brush your teeth in the morning. What you do about a relationship that is over is between you and your spouse, your husband, or your wife but only the two of you can get it back together and make it work again.