SO you think you know your man really well, don't you? Some women are so sure that they have got their men all figured out that they have even become smug with that false knowledge. Well, here is a wake-up call: there are still some things that your man will take to his grave if he can, and we've got a few, straight from the horses' mouths.He's cheating or he has cheated

No matter how trusting the relationship, most men will never volunteer information that they have been cheating on you. Even if you happen to catch him in the act, don't be surprised if he pulls a Shaggy on you and say "It wasn't me!" "It's about self-preservation," Anthony said. "You never, ever tell, even if she's accusing you non-stop."

What can you do? The guys say ensure that you're always protected, both physically and emotionally. Don't discount the usefulness of a condom, "and don't naively give all you have to a man who you have any cause at all to doubt," Paul said.

He's 'addicted' to porn

He'll not admit that he spends a whole lot of his time feasting on any pornographic material he can get his hands on; and that he is so hooked on it that he actually thinks about it to generate some excitement while he is making love to you. "Porn is essential, like air," Gerard explains. "He won't tell you that he's doing it, because he doesn't want you to think he's a freak, but all men look." And he won't admit it to you, and risk you getting in a huff and walking out on him.

What can you do? The guys say, unless it's interfering with your relationship, leave it alone, as according to Marlon,"looking at porn is better than being out there re-enacting porn".

He's still masturbating

Sure he cares about you a lot, but your man will still get the urge to masturbate whether you're available or not. "I like to show a little love to myself now and then," Calvin said. "It's the one time you can relax and just be yourself without the unnecessary conversation."

What can you do? The guys say accept it, accept that masturbating is normal and natural and him doing it has nothing to do with what you do or don't do.

He sometimes thinks of another woman while making love to you

Your man will never tell you that sometimes he still thinks about that hot ex-girlfriend and can't seem to shake his desires for her. His body may be with you, but his mind is definitely not with you. To effectively function, he has to fantasise that you are that person. "Anyone who says they don't do this is lying thought their teeth," Lennox said. "It's called monogamous variety."

What can you do? "Join in the fun," Alrick suggests. "He ain't gonna stop, so get your fantasy about some ex of yours going too!"

He doesn't believe in fidelity

Admit it, if your man had told you upfront that he is incapable of being true to one woman, you definitely would have thought twice about going into a relationship with him. "This is one thing men will never say to a woman they're serious about," Curtis said. "But believe me, most men love in the biblical sense, most men know that the one-burner thing is not natural, but they won't say it to women because of the cuss out that they're bound to get."

What can you do? "Concentrate on making the union concrete," Philip said. "He'll have less inclination to go the 'many women' route if he's assured that he can build a secure and happy future with you and only you."

He needs more excitement than you can give

You would have a heart attack if you knew just how kinky that man of yours is! He is into things that hasn't even crossed your mind and lives for the times when he can feed those weird desires. You can rest in your ignorant bliss, because he definitely will not be opening up about that any time soon. "Which idiot is going to tell a woman that she's not exciting enough?" Julian said. "If we like you we leave it alone, because we all know that for all the things we want, you alone won't be able to provide it."

What can you do? "Spice things up," Steve said. "Then hope and pray for the best!"

He's had sex with more women than he told you

"I told her three, it's more like 30," Kirk said. "I don't want her to think that I wasn't careful or that I didn't care for the women's feelings. I want her to think that I was always a man who was focused on long-term relationships."

What can you do? "Unless you can draw him out on the lie - beyond a reasonable doubt - then just let things be," Xavier said.

He looks at the women at work

"Jah know star, any man who tells you that he doesn't check out his co-workers is lying," Ricardo said. "But it's not something I'd admit to my girlfriend, ever. I don't want her to feel insecure." What can you do? Be realistic about the fact that your man will encounter more attractive women every day, but stay faithful to the belief that there is trust in your relationship, as there's little point in obsessing over it. "After all, he'll always look," Ricardo adds. "But that doesn't mean that he'll touch or attempt to touch."