Four years ago I separated from my wife and we divorced last year. Now I'm with a woman I love but she's always asking about my past relationships and especially my ex-wife. The questions come out of the blue: in bed, watching TV, in the car - and she expects me to give details about the reasons we broke up. In fact, there isn't much to say as we just drifted apart. I feel she's making me drown in the past.

What can I do? This could break us up. She wants me to get rid of everything that reminds me of my past, including furniture. Tom Dear Tom, You shouldn't have to get rid of your furniture or put up with the third degree. Her anxiety is no excuse for lacking faith in you - you deserve nothing less if you love and trust her.

She needs to appreciate that these insecurities could damage an otherwise healthy relationship, so be honest with her and admit how she's making you feel.

She may need counselling to help her learn why your past experiences are such a problem. Unless she changes and lightens up, your life will be miserable.

If she won't stop picking over the bones of your dead marriage, find someone who will love you for who you are now and doesn't judge you by past relationships.